Sunday, May 17, 2009

Ayampe and the Amazing Beach Bums


Alllllllllriiiight, so last time I wrote, I wrote about Montañita. It is time to update again! Woohoo! Listen, for those of you so excited that you can’t keep your socks on… TAKE YOUR SOCKS OFF! I hear that it is supposed to be 82º in southeast Idaho today, so I don’t know why the heck you would have socks on anyway. Sheesh.

So after Montañita, I waited a couple weekends before going to the beach again. In the meantime, I went to La Carolina where we helped with La Opción de Vida. I am beginning to really enjoy the boys. Marcello especially is a cute kid. He is only twelve, or something like that, and he comes into the center a little later than most kids and sees me and immediately gives me a hug.

There is this other little kid that is a friend of Marcello’s and Vanessa and Carla and I were playing along with him one day as he was trying to creep us out with scary animal sounds and pretending like he was crying and such. We dished it right back. The only problem was that I was barking so ferociously into the air that my voice got hurt. It just kinda went raw, really, but then that night we went out to Ladies Night and I had a good amount of alcohol and a couple of cigarettes, which is a normal consequence of drinking alcohol in my case. So… the alcohol and cigarettes weren’t too good for a voice that was already a little raw.

But no matter! I got to dance the night away! And by that I mean I was home no later than 1:00 in the morning. Ladies Night tends to not be a really late one, since the party starts at 8:00pm, so four hours of drinks and intense dancing and we’re ready to split.

So I woke up the next morning with no hangover, but with a hurting throat that then traveled a little way into my sinuses. That’s what I get for smoking, right? Luckily I had no school because the University closed down for the holiday at noon and I don’t have class on Thursdays until noon-thirty, which is a weird way of saying 12:30pm. And for those of you thinking, darn, she is such a lazy girl with no class until after noon, you can go ahead and keep that to yourselves, because on Mondays and Wednesdays I have class at 7:00am. EAT IT! Okay, I would prefer if you would do an evaluation of whatever it is first to make sure that it is edible. I don’t want anyone dying on me. But then, EAT IT!

Oh, and we signed up for classes and I have 8:30 classes every day next semester, but I’m not foreseeing any problems with that after doing quite well with 7:00am. I feel like I might enjoy getting things done early in the day.

But back to my story, the Thursday after that Ladies Night, Vanessa called me up and said her plans for the weekend had changed, so we should go to Ayampe! For those that do not remember, Charlotte and I went to Ayampe on our way down the coast and into Perú. It is this amazing place on or near an ecological reserve and all the people that hang out there are just the chillest people in the whole wide world. Beach bums, but in a cooler way.

So I had been telling Vanessa about this place for a while and she was excited to go! We went first to the bus station on Colón, but amazingly they had no tickets. Apparently we weren’t the only ones wanting to leave Quito for the three-day weekend. So we went to the Terminal Terrestre, bought tickets, and then split up to meet there later.
When I got home and started to pack, however, I had this half really anxious and insecure feeling, and half really painful stomach ache. As some of you may know, I tend to be pretty damn insecure at times. It can actually be quite paralyzing. I think since I have gotten to Ecuador it has greatly improved, but I don’t know that for sure. Anyway, I was feeling hermit-like thanks to that certain character flaw, but I was also lying on the floor trying to get my tummy to stop turning funny. So I called Vanessa and told her that if she could get anyone else to take the ticket and go with her, that I would give them the ticket or I would buy her ticket from her, or I could just suck it up and go. Luckily, she couldn’t find anyone else and I made myself go.

We took an overnight bus to Puerto Lopez, where we would have to catch another bus to Ayampe. We got to Puerto Lopez somewhere around 5:30 or 6:00 in the morning, after a frustrating bus ride that included several long stops in who knows the hell where. We would stop at a restaurant at like 2:00 in the morning and people would get off and the driver and assistant would just disappear. And I had so wanted to sleep, so I used the meditation track I have on my iPod designed especially for sleep. I was in this perfectly comfortable place in my mind, the track had stopped and I was just on the edge of being fully asleep when the guy behind me caught my hair in his grip on my seat as he was trying to get up out of his seat. He ripped it back (albeit accidentally), and I was dragged instantly out of whatever mental state I had been in. I couldn’t even keep my eyes closed for more than a minute the entire rest of the ride.

So frustrated, we arrived in Puerto Lopez before the sun was up. None of the coastal buses were running yet, so we would have to wait until they did start up for the day. We got our breakfast from a bread shop across from where the bus parked. There was music simply BLARING from some sort of speakers right next to the bread shop. The speakers were about a decibel shy of blowing out, but apparently that terrible music so loud and so early was good for business.

We asked what our options for getting to Ayampe were and the man working at the bread shop told us we could take the bus that would start maybe sometime in the next hour, or we could take a moto-taxi. We stopped the next moto-taxi and asked him how much it would cost. $5 to get there, where it might have cost us plenty more time and maybe $1.50 to go by bus. With the blaring music assaulting our ears with accordion and drum machine sounds behind us, we chose the moto-taxi.

For $5, we had much more fun than we would have had on a bus. First of all, the driver was focused on the road, meaning he couldn’t try to flirt with us and there were no other men to do that. Plus, there was fresh air, no waiting, and we were in a bit of suspense, as the moto-taxi was basically a three-wheeler (a motorcycle front with a little buggy with two wheels on the back) and felt as though it could probably tip over on the road that was freshly sprinkled with rain. So it was like a suspense movie. Would we catch a turn poorly and have wheels spill out from under us at any moment?

When we finally got to our destination (a fantastic hostal called Finca Punta Ayampe), Ishmael came out of his room, barefoot and rubbing his chest sleepily, and led us to a room where we could stay. The kitchen wasn’t open and no one else was awake in the whole place. When I say Beach bum, I really mean bum. The kitchen never opens before 7:30 and usually it is later than 7:30, even though the best waves are usually in the early morning.

So we had intended to take a nap right there in our rooms, but instead we snuck down and slept in the hammocks that the place has hanging everywhere. I love Finca Punta Ayampe because it is just like a big tree house. The downstairs is paved and has a couple of rooms that are just kind of separately built, but it is mostly all open. They have a tree growing up into the upper part and there is a sign by the stairs that go up to the main livingroom/dining room/kitchen area that asks you to take off your shoes before ascending. Forget the United States regulations of no shirt, no shoes, no service. Ishmael worked without a shirt on, generally, and most of the men that walked around were only wearing board shorts. They ASKED that you take off your shoes.

So we curled up in hammocks and slept for about three hours. When I woke up, I discovered that I had been covered with a blanket and that Vanessa had already gone upstairs. Ishmael told me that I was shivering very noticeably (quite weird since I could barely sit at any time during the day without sweating- the beach here is pretty hot and humid) and so had brought me a blanket while I slept. Vanessa had gone to shower and was already in beach clothes, but it was raining! It rained almost all day, but she went out while it was kinda clear to walk on the beach. I stayed in the hostal and read my book (Travels with Charley by John Steinbeck) after taking a hot shower.

I was so glad to be back there! I love that place. Everyone is just so chilled out. The staff recognized me, of course, and everyone spoke two or three or four languages. We just stayed in mostly on Friday, since it was rainy most of the day. On Saturday it was less rainy, but still a little. But by the end of the day, we went out and lay in the sun for just a little while. As we were out there, Lula, this beautiful little girl that spoke French and Spanish and seemed to be enchanted by us, invited us to a demasca, or something like that. It was a sweat lodge, where we went through four different vueltas to give praise to the earth. There was Earth, Water, Fire or Power, and Wind. We showed up late, so we did not get to be a part of the Earth round, but we knelt inside of the sweat lodge for the other three.

They had a large bonfire outside the door of this lodge. Inside the fire they had placed at least 28 good-sized rocks. Each new vuelta of this process would require 7 new rocks, which they called little grandmas. The man tending the fire would reach them in with a shovel, at which point the keeper of the rock pit would pick them up using what looked like small deer antlers and put them in the pit. There was a woman that would put some sort of herb/incense on the rocks. It would smolder and then light on fire, sending delicious smoke swirling into the lodge.

Once there were seven rocks in the pit, they would ask that the door be closed, making it dark enough that we could not see anyone in the lodge. We were all kneeling or sitting cross-legged in the mud that was the floor. The leader of the ceremony would say a good amount about the power of the vuelta, saying how water was what kept us alive and everything around us, how we were grown in the water of our mothers’ wombs, and how we were now recognizing how important it was for us. He would continue putting a little more water on the rocks, filling the whole place with steam so hot that by the time he got to the end of the bucket, I couldn’t breathe without putting my head down where there was less heat and moisture. Then there would be singing with drums and a tamborine, sometimes in Quichua, sometimes in Spanish, and maybe even some in other Indigenous languages.

During the third vuelta, we sprawled out on the ground. It was so hot that the sweat was pouring off of us from everywhere. It was so cleansing. We didn’t care that the floor was nothing but mud, we were hugging it and soaking in its coolness.

Once we finished the fourth vuelta, we cooled off for a couple of minutes and then crawled out in a counter-clockwise order, but crawling out clockwise. Very specific order. Once we got out, we hugged everyone in the line and then drank some watermelon juice to rehydrate. It was amazing. I felt so close to everyone for some reason. Vanessa and I went to our room to take showers. At first we just took a shower together with clothes on to get some of the mud off. Then Vanessa took a real shower and Lula joined me with our clothes on in the shower again to get all un-muddied. She left with her parents and I got cleaned up, before Vanessa and I went to get some dinner.

We were in a new room the second night because someone had a reservation for the room we had been in. They never showed up, but Vanessa and I didn’t mind sharing the double bed. We never really got under the sheets anyway. It was too hot.
The next morning dawned clear and sunny! On our last day there, we got to lay out in the sun a bunch. I was VERY, VERY CAREFUL with the scunscreen, but Vanessa seemed to think that she was somehow immune to the sun, no matter how much I warned her to put on the scunscreen. I know, some of you are thinking, Emily, you spelled sunscreen wrong. I tell you, NO I DIDN’T! I pronounce it scunscreen for some reason, hence why I spell it that way. Chill, dudes.  Just chill.

So, Vanessa got really, really burnt. I don’t think she was willing to admit it, but by the time we got on the bus that night, she was pretty miserable. I felt bad for her. I was so careful with the scunscreen, but even still I got burnt. I went out on the boogie-board with some of my weaker lotion on, so my shoulders and lower back got burnt. Other than that, I just got a pleasant spray of color, which has now fully faded. Oh well. Vanessa even didn’t go to school the next morning, though she said she was sick with something else. I have experienced sickness due to bad burns before, so I have the feeling she had something of that going on.

Alright, so this is me, about to sign out. Sorry, I have zero photos for you. I’m not entirely sure if I mentioned this before or not, but I was robbed again just as the first cycle ended, so I don’t have a camera anymore. Any of the photos I have are thanks to other people from now on. I’ll write more later about John and my experience being robbed the second time, but that should wait for a number of reasons, the most important being that it is about time for me to go back home so I can practice a presentation that I have for tomorrow in my Econ class!

So, that is about all I have to say for now. Tomorrow I present my project in our Global Ethics class. Thanks, dad, for coming through for me with the money I needed to borrow. I really appreciate it and sorry that I didn’t arrange things more ahead of time.

So anyway, I have two more weeks of school and then finals week. Then we are headed to the beach. John's gf Breena will be here by then, which I am excited for. She seems kinda freakin cool. :)

That is all I have for now! Love you everyone and I look forward to seeing y’all in a little less than a month!

Emily K

Friday, May 8, 2009

Montañita!

Good morning! Okay, for those of you reading this at night, Good evening! Alright, fine, and those of you reading this not in the morning and sometime before 6:30 PM, Good afternoon. And for anyone reading this between midnight and 5AM, you’re a pain, get a life. Okay, I take that back. Mostly. But maybe you ought to go to sleep either way.

So my parents are on some sort of sailing cruise in the Caribbean right now. I know, weird, right? I don’t even know the whole story. In fact, my dad told me less than a week before they left! He swears he told me before, but I think I would have remembered being outrageously jealous that they chartered some sort of sailing cruise with a bunch of friends and relatives.

I just hope they are taking mega pictures. I told them that champagne was off-limits. I don’t want any new siblings and I don’t think drunken sea-sickness would be very much fun. Plus, I haven’t been with my family in about a year, so it would be nice to see their faces again. No falling over the railing of a sailboat in the middle of the Caribbean! At least not until I come home.

I got a package from my amazing friend Vincent the other day. Included in the box among the marshmallows, girl scout cookies, LifeSaver gummies, popcorn and peanut-butter-chocolate chips was a note that made me feel like someone back home really did love and miss me. Thanks, Vin.

I definitely do, however, need to comment on what it took to get this package. Along with the process that I am sure was hard enough to SEND it, picking it up was the stupidest thing I have ever done. First of all, a paper showed up at our house saying that I had a package at the post office that was partway across the city. I needed to bring two copies of my passport and I had heard some money too. Once getting there, I had to sign 3-4 times at different steps in the process, pay three different people taxes, processing fees, and copying fees (albeit only $2.50 in total), and have the contents of the package examined and rummaged through. At first I thought it was going to be just a slight pain in the arse, but as each new step of the process presented itself, I rolled my eyes deeper into my head. It was as follows, to the best of my memory:
  1. Stand in line
  2. Sign a paper and hand in my passport copies at station #1
  3. Pay at station #1
  4. Receive a number from station #1 so I could wait for station #2 to become available
  5. Wait in the waiting area until station #2 called my name
  6. Be led into the back where packages were locked up with padlocks
  7. Get package sliced into and examined
  8. Wait in station #2 until other customer was finished
  9. Sign a paper at station #2
  10. Cross the street and pay for a copy of sheet given to me at station #2
  11. Hand in copy at station #2
  12. Go to the bank to pay processing fee and get original paper signed and stamped
  13. Wait at station #3 for worker to retrieve my package
  14. Sign and leave passport number at booklet in station #3
  15. Leave (running as fast as my legs would take me)
Yup, it was a regular ropes and hoops of fire process. This country… I did that for a package of snacks. Not to say it wasn’t worth it. The popcorn was gourmet, the girl scout cookies were the best I have ever had (I had never even heard of that kind before), the gummies were a life-saver (hehe, LifeSaver gummies were a life-saver, I know, I’m a funny one), and the note has saved my week. I have walked about smiling. Sometimes I read it in the mornings before going to school just because it will make my day so good.

And supposedly another package is coming for me! It’ll be my second. I didn’t know the first one was coming, but I do know about the second. I’m excited about that, but I wonder if it will make it in time. For everyone else, now is about the time to NOT send me anything else. I know you had packages and letters piled up just waiting to be sent to me, but don’t do it! This last package took 2 ½ months to get here. Very literally.

So I will continue to hope that the second package comes.

So after going to the beach with Cassie, the next weekend I had intended to head North, but I had no one to go with me (blast that John and his trip to Perú), so I enlisted in the trip to Montañita, another beach town. But we left a little later than the other folks from Oregon and the East Coast because us Idaho girls wanted to go to a soccer game!

I got to see Liga play Chile. We bought jerseys outside of the stadium and sat in the slightly fancier section. Carla’s Ecuadorian boyfriend Jorge had some sort of fan-club card that got us into the seats, but we realized not long into our time in the stadium that the general section was the place to be. There was smoke and banners and a sea of white in the general section. We had a drum player, but the general section was throwing TP over the fences onto the field, jumping in sync with each other to the team song, and there seemed to be persistent confetti being thrown. They were loud and fun and even a little dangerous. I actually heard that someone went into the section wearing a Chile jersey and was thrown down the stadium stairs and then attacked at the bottom! Liga fans love their team.

As we watched, we noticed that number 21 seemed to really suck! Of course he was a forward, which is a LOT of pressure, but it seemed like every time he was passed the ball, he wouldn’t turn his foot right and end up passing to the other team or missing the ball or something simple like that. I felt like a good number of the members from my high school team could have played better than he did! Not me, of course, but Warnke for sure.

Afterward we were told by Jorge's dad, to whom we had been complaining about 21’s performance, that 21 was actually ranked #3 in the world. He was the star of the team. Shows how much we knew.

It was so fun! I finally got to go to a game, after living in Quito for 8 months. Last semester I was on the mountain Cayambe when my group decided to go to a game. I was so upset! I mean, sure I was on one of the most beautiful mountains in the world, but I didn’t get to be with my friends while they ate chili-dogs in the stadium. No matter. I got to go this semester! It was awesome!

That night Cassie, Charlotte and I headed out for Montañita. We had to go to Guayaquil first, because that was the fastest and pretty much only way to get there. Everyone was leaving the city because it was Semana Santa (Holy Week) and therefore a holiday, so it was hard to get a ticket to anywhere. We tried two different stations before just going to Terminal Terrestre, the main bus-depot of the city. We got on a bus to Guayaquil and arrived there at somewhere around 4:30-5:00 in the morning. The terminal was a mess. Everyone in Guayaquil seemed to be leaving the city too. We found some French people that spoke very minimal Spanish. They asked us how to get to Montañita, so I told Alecsandre to stay with me in line. But after waiting at least 20 minutes to get to the front of the line, I was told that I was supposed to be one window over, even though it clearly said Montañita at this window!

I was so angry! Especially considering that the line to get a ticket to Montañita was going to take at least 2 hours to get through! So I put the most innocent, distressed, but friendly face on that I could muster that early in the morning and went to talk to the man who was guarding the split in the barrier of the line for Montañita where customers who had already gotten their tickets were exiting. He said I could slip in and ask, but I slipped in and as slyly as I could, slipped my way into the confused group of people waiting at the counter. The computer had gone down, so things had stopped. People behind me in the line were getting very angry with a lady who had slipped forward, using the excuse that she had already been there. It got to the point where two police/guards came to help keep the line/mob under control. The people in line were yelling and sighing and pointing fingers, saying he had cut, she had cheated. I knew that there were a number of people looking at me confused and angry that I was where I was, but I tried to act like a confused tourist. After slipping in and edging myself to the position where I could get tickets, I bought seven, trying to make as little hassle as possible for the man at the counter, and slipped out again (three for us girls and four for the Frenchies).

If there is one thing that I have learned from my daddy, I have realized recently that it is the ability to control my emotions at the right times so I can get people to do what I want. I was distressed but nice to the man guarding the exit, so he let me in to ask about tickets. I was a confused tourist to those around me in line, so I didn’t get yelled at. I was hassle-free and all business with the man selling tickets, so he printed 7 tickets without any problem. And I wasn’t making anything up. I was distressed, confused, and just wanted to get the thing done, I have just learned to suppress any other emotions that might come out and delay the process. I didn’t get angry, and I had stood in line as fairly as anyone else in what I thought was the right place before being told that I was supposed to be a window over. I made as little trouble for anyone else as possible, while still getting what I wanted. Thanks, dad. :)

Although, my dad doesn’t always leave anger out of it. He gets his way using frustration when he sees that the system needs changed. People start to listen when someone yells at them in a restaurant or in a store. But, growing up next to that yelling was not always fun. :)

Anyway, we chatted with the Frenchies for a bit while waiting for the bus. They paid me back and we got to know them a little. We were all sitting together on the bus, so they shared their gummy-bears with us. That was nice. They were all bus-drivers from Paris in South America for a month of vacation. Though they didn’t all speak English, Alecsandre made certain to thank me as much as he could, which was really nice of him.

The bus we rode on was amazing! Most buses in South America are “jazzed-up” with curtains that have fringes, all sorts of stickers of women with perfect bodies, and salsa music so loud that the speakers have all long since been blown out. But this bus was entirely different! It was like an airplane. We almost got cold from the air conditioner. The seats were made of that newer comfortable padding that never seems to wear out. It was clean and airy, the windows were huge and there was no blaring music. I was exhausted, but I stayed awake just to enjoy the bus. :)

When we got to Montañita, we parted with the Frenchies, knowing that Montañita was too small to not see them again before we left. We found the hostal that Matt, Megan, James, Max and Kat were staying in, found their room and walked in on them. They were, of course, dead asleep. So we got a room and went out on the beach!

The others slowly joined us as they saw the morning light. The last of them didn’t appear until well after noon. They seemed to have had a fun night the night before.

It was the perfect weekend on the beach. There was so much sun. We laid in it, got a little burnt, swam in the ocean, drank fruity drinks, and ate fun food from the street vendors. I guess at this point I am tired of writing, so I can just wrap things together in a small summary.

First, Matt nearly died in the same way that Charlotte and I nearly died a few short months ago. He and James were out swimming and got caught in a rip tide. Luckily James is a big, buff guy and was able to pull Matt out before they both went under. Matt was fully spooked and had to chill out in his room before he was ready to take on any more of the day.

Second, Charlotte, Carla and I were left to go to sleep early on Saturday night because everyone else went into Montañita and didn’t bother stopping to get us or call us or even take their phones so we could communicate with them. We went to bed at 9:30, even though we all had new dresses on and were ready to go out dancing for the night. That ended up being the only night that the guys were willing to dance. We weren’t there because we didn’t feel comfortable crossing the beach alone (after all, we were looking so hot in our little dresses that who could resist us?). We were quite angry about that. As you might be able to tell, I am letting go of the resentment still.

I hear a child crying right now outside. I don’t know if it is any kind of domestic violence, but it hurts me because I can’t do anything about it. That is someone else’s business and if I were to call the police on something like that, they would do nothing, besides maybe laugh in my face. The police get paid so little here that they really don’t give a shit. Hence why I never reported being robbed either time.

Okay, thirdly about Montañita, the two girls from Idaho wanted to leave in the morning for some reason, so that they could get into Quito before nightfall (doesn’t really make sense to me- I like traveling at night because it doesn’t waste as much of my useable time), but the bus we were going to catch that went straight to Guayaquil left about the time we were asking about it, meaning we had missed it. So it was either leave later in the afternoon or take multiple buses to get to Guayaquil. So I stayed with the other people, while Charlotte and Carla left to make their way back to Quito.

So we got to go hang out with a local family, watch part of a movie and eat fruit. Then we hung out on the beach for just a little longer. I was so frustrated with the other five because it took them so much time and decision-making and dragging of feet to do ANYTHING. But I just chilled out and let it flow.

But then trying to get out of the town and to the bus in time was not very easy. James and Max just wanted to chat for a long time with the IES girls and anyone else that we stopped to say goodbye to. By the time we got to the bus station, it was only a few minutes before the direct bus left, but all the tickets on said bus were sold. We had to take the multiple bus option, going from Montañita to Santa Elena on the first bus and then from Santa Elena to Guayaquil, where we caught a bus home. We arrived in Quito at something like 5:00AM. The next morning we found out that Charlotte and Carla hadn’t even made it into Quito until 2:00 or 3:00AM for some reason, even though they left somewhere around 6 hours earlier than we did.

Let’s see, what else? I really have nothing else to say! Oh yeah, I went to the post office the other day to send some post cards (some of you will be receiving some soon!), and was wondering if the guy was going to be mad that I was going to try and break a ten. I had 6 post cards and when I heard the total of $12, my mouth fell wide open! I couldn’t believe it! Ecuador recently raised all prices on foreign stuff. Sending mail outside of the country and buying non-Ecuadorian-made items in the grocery store has gotten expensive. So I took one back and gave him all of the ten that I had. So when I say “some” of you will be getting post cards, I really mean that way fewer than I had originally intended will be getting post cards. I have something like 20 cards now that I can’t afford to send to you all. I hope no one minds that I am going to bring them home and give them to you personally. Much more economical that way.

This summer I intend to be working as much as I possibly can. I have run out of cash fully and I am eager to have a little bit of fall-back money back in my account. Plus, I intend to make a trip to Moscow to plant a garden, go to a wedding, and show some of my friends Yellowstone National Park! :) I know, crazy that someone would actually want to see the beautiful place that I live in.

The best part? I get to live with my brothers and my mom and dad, who are, most definitely, the coolest people I know. I am legal to drink now, which means that my big bro and I are going to be making a foursome for bar-jumping with our two cousins Nate and Becca! Woohoo!

Good gravy, so we have this new little puppy, who is adorable, but the most poorly-behaved dog I have ever met! I know, she is still just a puppy, but I don’t think she is going to get any better. My mother doesn’t train her and I feel like if I were to kick her to teach her not to bite everyone’s ankles when they come in the house, I think my mom would then kick me. She is obsessed with animals and so I would be just another animal-beater. I can’t stand the dogs that bark non-stop, which is what she does, so I get to the point where I am on the edge of tears because she won’t shut up!! It is the most frustrating thing I have been dealing with lately.

Not that I am counting down the days, but I have one month from Sunday until I come home! I am enjoying my last bit of time here, though. Well, my story ends here for now. I am still several weeks behind, but I will wait to install more later. Have a great weekend!

Emily Kuhl

Monday, May 4, 2009

The End of Spanish, Calvin, and Canoa

I have much to tell! Here is the first installment. I'll be writing again soon!

Since writing last, I finished my Spanish class, which has been a huge relief. Even though there was not very much homework, three hours of class every day is a huge amount. We had to turn in essays about a particular topic, which we had been working on for the whole quarter. My topic was "El Ecuador, su Gobierno, y la Economía en Desarrollo"- "Ecuador, its Government, and its Developing Economy." Obviously, it was written all in Spanish. It was one of the hardest assignments I have done in my life, simply because I did it right this time. On a lot of assignments that are like this, I wait until the week before to do it and end up being satisfied with what comes out, but not fully certain that I had actually investigated all corners of what I was talking about. This one I did right because I did all the research and then started writing. I wrote and researched and researched and wrote as often and as much as I could force myself to. Even so of course I had to do much of the work at the last minute.

Plus, my brother Conner came the week before "finals" week for half-semester classes, meaning that I had to do as much as possible the weekend before he flew in so that I would be able to take time off in class! Luckily, I didn't have to go on the field trip that all the Spanish students went on to Tulipe because our resident director Juan took us there the semester before during our Yunguilla trip. I had time to write then, but found that after a whole weekend of trying to focus on nothing but writing this paper, I only got the history and part of the dollarization finished! I still had so much to do!

But no matter, because Conner's trip was AMAZING. We had such little time because he was only here for Spring Break from UI, which is only a week. He flew in on Sunday night and out Saturday morning, meaning that we only really had 5 days. But what we did in those five days! We had pizza and beer with friends, went to Centro Histórico, chilled out in Baños where we rafted and rode around in a go-kart and bungee-jumped, and then we re-created a photoshoot on top of the Basílica because Daniel lost the photos he took from that. We had also intended to go on the train from Alausí down the Devil's Nose, but apparently it is still out of service from the rain storms earlier this semester. It is said that Ecuador has some of the worst roads around. They lay one strip of cement and call it good. Remember the US? We have an entire season devoted solely to mile-long strips of pristinely-engineered roadway that lasts for far too many years. But can you blame them here? No one in the states really wants to work road construction, but it pays VERY WELL. Here they are paid nothing. Welcome to Ecuador!

Listed below are the URLs to my facebook photo albums of Conner's visit:

(I have removed the links, since they were no longer valid.  I may re-post them in the future.)

The next weekend and week, I was able to pull together my paper for Manuela. I was very proud of it. It ended up being somewhere around 21 pages, although that includes a title page, table of contents page, three pages of sources and some pages with graphs. But it was single-spaced and I am very proud of the work I put into it. It may be all crap, but I like it all the same.

The test for the class didn't go so well. None of us did very well! Not even Krista got an 80% or above and she was definitely ahead of the rest of us in the class! But Enrique passed, which was a very close call. He was happy. We were all pretty darn happy for him. And now he's gone and we miss him.

We had the chance to take a final exam kind of thing after finishing the last level of Spanish that they offer here at La Católica. Krista and Benji both took it and Charlotte and I were considering, but I decided in the end that it was not really worth it. I would have really liked to because our teachers said that the test was very similar to what we might expect for the something or other tests. The ones that certify you to teach or something like that. And so I would have liked to have some kind of experience as to what that test will be like one day, but it was such a long and stupid process! First I had to go buy a special sheet of paper for a dollar from the bank here on campus. Then I had to write a letter of solicitation on that special sheet of paper. Then when I went to hand that solicitation in, the secretary looked at me as though I were dumb and told me I had to go pay for the test first and bring back the receipt. Plus, whatever was I thinking leaving a scribble on that oh-so-important piece of paper?

So I said, screw that. It really isn't worth it. I don't like being busy all the time, so I might as well just take one more thing off of my list of things to do. I just had to laugh at seeing another manifestation of Ecuador's obsession with perfect papers and white-out.

We were finished! It was a great feeling. For the week that followed, everyone else set about traveling. Some people went to the Galápagos, John went to Perú, a lot of people went to the beach. I don't think I did shit, hehe. Actually, I went to the beach one weekend with Cassie. It was going to be more of us, but then some people backed out, which was fine with me. Cassie’s an awesome person, so why would I mind if other people decided to ditch?

Chassie wanted to check out Atacames because she had never seen it before, so we went there first. We had intended to go to Trans Esmeraldas and catch a bus to Atacames whenever the next one appeared. As we were approaching, we saw a bus pulling out and flagged it down, asked if it went to Atacames and if we could get on, and settled into empty seats. The assistant man nodded when we asked if the bus went to Atacames. Then he slipped in a little muttered “Esmeraldas” later, which I assumed meant that we were headed to Atacames, which is in the Esmeraldas province. But at somewhere around midnight, our bus pulled into Esmeraldas the city, and we were left to find a hostal in one of the most dangerous parts of the city! Luckily here there is never a short supply of taxis and I always feel safer in a taxi that has its doors locked. So the nice man in the very legal taxi took us to a nearby hostal that was neither entirely cheap nor perfectly clean. We spent an uneasy night with our sliding door tied shut with bed sheets (which Cassie forgot to remove in the morning! :) )

As a side note, does anyone know if I used neither…nor correctly in the sentence above? It sounds funny and I have too many languages running through my head to tell.

In the morning we caught another locked-doored taxi to the bus-station, where we got on the first bus that would take us to Atacames. For this trip we only had to take one bus, which was rather nice. But as we were sitting with steam escaping from all orifices while the sun beamed in the window of the clanker bus, a man selling water decided we looked like we needed someone to talk to. So he chatted with us, telling us we were beautiful gringas, and despite the fact that we were doing our best to be rude and ignore him, he continued with his one-sided conversation until the bus started leaving the station. Thank goodness we were told we were beautiful though!

Once in Atacames, we (we being me because I thought I knew the way) got lost, but made it to the same place I went with the antiguo group of Idaho. But, instead of staying in the same place we had the last time, which was a little too rich for my blood, we got a place at “The Snail” hostal across the street for $5/person/night. Our shower was pretty cold and the door to the bathroom didn’t actually close, but it was fairly nice anyway. And cold showers in weather that already gives you a shower all day everyday in your own sweat is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s nice to just have water coming from pipes and shower heads, rather than your own clogged pores.

Atacames was okay, to say the most. I knew that Cassie would not like it, but she knew she had to at least try it. She didn’t like it. It was a constant battle to keep from buying things from vendors that passed by. I mean, I knew I needed my 600th woven bracelet, but money just runs low, you know? Plus, we couldn’t go swimming together for fear of losing our possessions. And to leave the other alone on the beach with so many eyes upon them was a pretty bad idea.

We slept a night there and then got up in time to catch a bus that would take us to another bus that would take us to another bus that would take us to Canoa, our next destination. We waited in the hot sun for far too long, but the bus finally came. We made one bus switch well, then got into a little town just as it was getting dark. They had a bus going to Jama, where we could supposedly catch another bus to Canoa. We were told explicitly, after asking explicitly, that we would be able to catch the bus in this little town called Jama to Canoa, so we got on.

But we got into Jama sometime at night. 10:00 PM maybe? I’m not entirely sure, but we were then explicitly told that we could not catch any such bus heading in the Canoa direction until morning. After being lied to for the second time, we then found a hotel room to spend the second night in a wrong location in. We didn’t have to tie the door shut this time, so I suppose that was a plus.

Early the next morning we caught our elusive bus and made it to Canoa pretty early. We got our room in the hostal, which happened to be the same room Cassie and Carla and James had stayed in the weekend before when they had first discovered Canoa, and then headed to the beach. We did so much swimming and so much sun bathing! I did, of course, get burnt, but not too badly. We ate emborrajadas (which are basically bananas and cheese and flour, all deep-fried – the most amazing thing ever!), juicy hamburgers, delightful ceviche, and Cassie even had the most icey-cold and amazing Coke she has ever had!

After hanging out on the beach as much as we could the next day, we took off at night from Bahía on an overnight bus to Quito. But as we were waiting for said bus, the assistant who had been bustling around for no real reason for about an hour, came over to talk to us. Because, of course, all foreigners just want to be probed. No matter, sometimes it turns out fun.

He asked us some questions and along came the question “So, are you sisters, cousins, friends…?” No- I said. We’re lovers. That knocked his feet out from under him. I had wanted to see the reaction and enjoy freedom when he realized that we wouldn’t be interested in him. The former I got. The latter, was quite the opposite.

Immediately he became far more interested in us than he had been. Suddenly because we were girlfriends, that must mean that we were automatically more sexually inclined and open. He was asking us questions, telling us about how he is a writer. Well, I don’t have a job, he said. But guess what? He has a little notebook and he writes things about life in it. This one was sure to go in there.

Then it started to get really weird. He was putting his hand on my knee and staring into my eyes because he thought I was such an interesting person for opening up about something like that. Because I wasn’t ashamed by it. My heart was screaming inside because he just didn’t know what the LGBTQ community of Ecuador and Latin America in general was missing. Though the United States is far from “fair” concerning gay rights (I think it is an issue that can never be fully resolved, much like abortion, because they are topics that get so personal), we are still leaps and bounds ahead of this place. People here have heard of the crazy Americans and their homosexual tendencies, but to actually know a homosexual here is rare. Why? Because admitting something like that here would certainly be the end of one’s life. Maybe not in the sense of being murdered, necessarily, but definitely in the sense of social circles and lifestyle capabilities. If there is one thing that I LOVE about college students in the United States, it is that they are open. The University of Idaho, where I attend, is in no way perfect in the area of Gay-Straight Alliance, but one of the first things you learn when going to UI your freshman year is that vocabulary like “faggot” and sayings like “you’re so gay” are completely and 100% unacceptable. It really isn’t perfect, but it is a community where people are willing to love each other for who they are, not for what their sexual tendencies are.

Sorry, rant. But it doesn’t end there. One of the most irritating things that the man said to me while he refused to take our one-word answers and obvious gazes in other directions, was when he asked a hypothetical question. Say if she (Cassie) were to give you (that’s me!) a present for your birthday. And what if that present were sex for one night with any of your friends. Would you like that present? WTF? I am so frustrated with people who think that anyone who is not straight is automatically everything sexual, like their lives are entirely ruled by sexual acts and nothing else. No one needs to be a slut to know whether they are attracted to men or women. But why expose yourself to the harsh criticism that society will lay on you by coming out when there really is no tangible proof yet that you might have a non-straight leaning? But when Shirley decides she is ready to have sex with Rachel, everyone knows and therefore this couple is sexually deviant in some way.

I hate to break it to the public, but sex goes on amongst unmarried men and women all the time. Just as it goes on amongst gay men and lesbian women. Wake up. When I was younger I didn’t know how I felt regarding homosexuality. I was raised in a more conservative, church-going community that cast a disapproving look on all who dared to not be straight. My parents were fairly religious and I assumed that they held the same decision. When I asked my dad what his thoughts were on homosexuality, he told me something I have never forgotten and it is one of the wisest things I have ever heard. He said, you know, I was a part of my church and I was raised very conservatively and I guess I held that same opinion for a while, but when it came down to it, I had a very close and personal choice that might change me forever. I had to admit to myself that it was most certainly possible that any son of mine in the future might tell me he is gay one day. And what would I do then? I’d love him.

My dad is one of the wisest men I know and I got this from him: I don’t care if my friends are gay or straight. I love them and it is not going to change that. I don’t know how or why someone is attracted to men or attracted to women, but that really is not my business. My business is to love the people around me. I don’t care what or how or why. I accept and I love.

Yep, that was necessary. The whole conversation got me thinking SO MUCH about gay-straight relations, what we have to be thankful for in each other, and how some people can be so closed-minded. So you don’t agree with a non-straight lifestyle? Fine. Keep that to yourself. Some people can be so stupid not to love the people around them for sad and sorry reasons.

Alright, I thought that was something that needed tackling. I don’t mind detouring to tackle things like that. But back to the story, that was pretty much the end. :) We got on the bus, which was cold as ice with the AC blaring the whole way!, and made our way back to Quito all through the night.

I think I will take a break here. Happy reading, Happy Cinco de Mayo, and Happy Tuesday!

Love you all!

Emily