Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Milenka, and others

Oh my goodness, how I miss my apartment, my "Hola Emili!"s, and my Milenka. And dude, what's with no one around here knowing how to get their drink on? I miss it.

I've applied to a number of jobs so far, most of which have come back saying, "You're overqualified," or something like that. How about you let me decide that for myself? If I'm applying to be a fry cook at McDonald's with a bachelor's degree and a mountain of references and great work experience, who are you to tell me that I should be applying for something better? I had planned on it, but I wanted to get a job with you and work hard for you until I could find something better. But I suppose you're looking for the low-lifes whose goals in life are to rise up to swing-shift manager at the local McD's, eh? Fine, maybe I am overqualified. Still pisses me off a bit. It makes getting a short-term job to pay off debts and plan a trip really difficult. But whatev.

Looking back on Spain I came to a few conclusions. First, I grew up. Holy cow, did I grow up. I think it came from renting my own apartment, buying my own food, making my own friends, holding my own (albeit ineffective) job, etc. Then there was the alcohol. It's hard to believe that a few intoxicated nights can make you feel older and wiser... well, okay, it's not hard to believe. One morning of the vodka runs makes you sit up and really think about your drinking. Makes you wiser. I learned about allowing alcohol, but not using it. There's a huge difference.

Second, I learned about myself. I was texting with a friend and we both said almost the same thing, though it was arrived at through different circumstances. Peace just came one day. Well, not even one day. It was like, I looked back after a couple of months near the end of Spain and thought, that's weird, I'm so okay with myself that I feel honestly at peace. I've been able to bide my time before, but never without anxiety. The first four months were hard. The last two or three... damn easy. And it was never anything anyone did for me. It just came.

Third, I learned about friends. I learned that you don't just slam doors and burn bridges, despite what hurts. I learned that recurring bummers are manageable. And once having found someone to connect with, it's a good idea to make a manageable, working relationship with them, not one in which you ride around on a high-and-mighty horse in hopes of teaching lessons and keeping a perfect friendship once the friend grovels on her metaphorical knees. There is no such thing. People come in and out of our lives for a reason, and having someone in our life who fits you well, despite her bumpy English, is not something to banish from life. :) It's something to invite into life and enjoy, for as long as it wants to stay. All metaphors aside, keep good, human friends. They make mistakes--hence the human part--but always remember you make them too. I sure have.

Also, I learned to be alone. This goes with learning about myself, but it is a specific part of it that makes me happy. I've done it before. After a boyfriend in my sophomore year, I went a full year and a half without dating anyone. And I came out on the other side ready for love, perhaps even a little yearning, maybe desperate. This time around, 8 months and a whole lot of growing up later, I'm coming out on the other side single and singing. I don't despise dating by any means, but I don't have an empty ache of need eating me away until I find someone to curl up against. It's always nice to have that, but I'm not getting eaten with a need for it. I look forward to the dating world with patience, rather than the usual wariness I was approaching it with for years. My bitterness has rolled off my body like waves of shadows and I no longer feel the need for it to create barriers. I'm in control of myself enough that I don't have to make the external barriers anymore.

And what does all this mean now that I'm home? I'll tackle it in the same order. First, being more grown up has meant being more stable back at home. No longer am I anxiety-ridden. Everything is so much more manageable. And even my parents have noticed the change.

Second, yeah, peace came and it feels great. But also, I'm learning that peace has to be maintained, which isn't always easy when you feel isolated and directionless. It takes a little work and understanding to keep the warmth of peace where it curls up somewhere below your breastbone. It won't just reside there forever. Sometimes you have to offer it incentives and reasons to stay. And finding those reasons to stay involves knowing yourself. Without knowing my limits and my tendencies, I would not be able to keep up with this peace.

The third item, learning about friends, hasn't fully transferred over yet. Why? Because my friend base is totally changing. I'm geographically separated from most of my friends and the ones that are left and close are getting married and having kids. But even with that, I have brought something home with me. When Kate texts me for an address and says, "I miss you," I tell her I miss her right back and promise to come see her next time I pass near Othello where she and her husband live. I love sometimes being over the top, being so caring that people stop and think, "This is my brother's ex-girlfriend; she has no more stake in the family, so where is all the kindness coming from?" I appreciate the attention that is returned and have learned that the only way to foster deeper relationships is to give time to it. Comfortable, well-spent, honest time. Even if it just means texting to say, I love you, little girl. She's gonna have a brighter day.

And finally, being in Idaho Falls has helped me realize that just because you live in the same city as your parents or relatives does not mean that you automatically have a support group. Being alone means in all senses. And I can handle that. I did it in Ecuador, I did it in Spain, and now I do it here right in Idaho Falls. I've learned (though still need LOTS of practice) a new way to communicate and it makes me approach everything like a new person. I'm redefining my relationships on all sides--with my mom, my dad, my brothers, and others. And while I am learning how to give support and sometimes getting it back, the biggest, most important, and definitely most necessary change is that I've learned being alone doesn't mean lonely... it means being independent, standing on my own two feet, flying with my own two wings, being whole within myself. Alis volat propriis.

Now, this all sounds well and good, right? It's not over. It's an on-going process. Just like trying to invite the peace in to stay, I must continually invite everything else that is so new to me to stay a while, let me get used to its presence, create a permanent residence for the healthy lifestyle in my life. This lifestyle doesn't just come in and need no maintenance--it needs care and cuddling. And most of all, practice. Thank god that life is just one big practice ring. Let's dive in!

Monday, July 4, 2011

The last week or two (see, told you)

Soooo, since I've waited, I've largely forgotten the last couple of weeks. So I'm doing highlights.

First, with the school. All the kiddos said goodbye. I was supposed to be getting some sort of surprise from the sixth grade. That was a flop. In fact, when Gregorio went to ask if anyone had anything to say in the last class, they all did that awkward look-around thing. They approached me later on the playground. The little guys all sang me songs in class and Susana gave me a book that they made with pictures of each class through third grade. Super cute. And I got some pictures.

We had a "Dia del Centro" or like a "School's Day" where we went out to San Isidro and had a party with everyone. Funny part? I went with a hickey. The night before, Milena sat on me and randomly sucked on my neck despite protests long enough to give me a hickey. And I was very pissed the next day when I couldn't hide it from every single student, every single teacher, and a majority of the student's parents. What an inopportune time to flash that kind of badge. Ugh.

And then there were the last few days of the Mexicans. That was sad to see them go. But goodbyes also force emotions and unsaid things and it was a very sweet goodbye. I still miss them quite a bit.

Then the weekend after was my birthday! The night before (and pretty close to, if not really, midnight) Jose, Bharathi and Feng Shui came to my apartment where Milena and I were with flowers, a little gift, and a happy birthday song! :D It was so wonderful.

Milena and I made a movie, which I will post here, but only because I like you guys. First you have to watch at least part of this one to understand:

Ayudame, their version

And then here is our version:

Ayudame, our version

The story is that nearly everyone in Latin America has seen the first video and definitely makes fun of it. The girls have pretty poor pronunciation and it's just funny. So Memo, our Mexican friend, really wanted Milena and I to learn the song and sing it to them in terrible pronunciation before they left. I wasn't excited about that and I don't think Milenka was either, so we just didn't do it, but then I had the idea to make a movie for him. :) We filmed it with my computer in my apartment the night before and the day of my birthday and then I put it all together when I came home. Apparently he cried out of happiness when he saw it. :D Shwing!

So anyway, that is what we were doing when the three came to give me their birthday wishes. And then when the clock struck midnight, Milena stopped in the middle of recording and told me happy birthday. Then the next morning, I got up from reading to find a bunch of at least a dozen roses on my door mat. I knew Milena had left them, but the card said they were from someone far away. The two connived beforehand. And I give amazing props to both. What a great way to start the day.



Then maybe an hour later, Milena came with a "birthday cake" with a candle, more flowers, and a little gift. I felt so damn spoiled. I think it was the nicest birthday I have ever spent. We spent the whole day watching movies and eating and doing nothing else really.

I spent the week before leaving packing up and enjoying the sunshine and the not-too-excited-not-too-bummed feeling I had about leaving. It was a good mix of feelings. Milenka spent the last like four days with me almost non-stop and I didn't get tired of her at all. I wouldn't even let her sleep in one of the other beds.

The morning of leaving was hard as I put everything in my boss's car and had to say goodbye to Milenka and Bharathi. I hope I see them again.

I spent my last evening in Spain on a casual date with a guy named Alex. It was hard getting my suitcases to my hostel, but then once I did, I got on my party shoes and went out with Alex for some tapas and beer. It was a good way to end Spain.

I got back to my hostel a little beer-ed up, and laid down on my bed, "just for a minute" and fell asleep. I had to be up at like four in the morning and I didn't set an alarm, but magically, and I don't know how my body does this, I woke up in time to get to the shuttle to the airport. My body always knows when it is something really important, because it wakes me up! It's amazing, but I can never rely on it working, it just happens sometimes.

So I got to the airport on time and started my traveling. Here are some details about traveling: First, Delta and Air France changed their policy about second bag fees and I had to pay 75 euros instead of 50. Bullshit. I'm still trying to fight that. And I had no time to try and rearrange and get rid of some things to see if I could make weight with just one and leave stuff behind. Ugh. So I paid 75.

Also, I lost my iPhone. Still really freaking angry at myself for that one.

And my mom, dad, and brother Dave were at the airport to meet me. And I had to wear a coat. My mom's wool pea coat. It was that cold in June. I had just come from 80 or 90 degree weather. Brrrr.

And that's about it! Post again shortly!

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Housekeeping before signing-out

Okay, so the overseas adventure has come to an end. I'll put up one last post, maybe, about the last week or two in Spain. But for now, I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm home, and safely. Please don't send anything to my Spain address; I won't get it. Here is my new address:

Emily Kuhl
9530 S 5th W
Idaho Falls, ID 83404
USA

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Italia

So after Morocco, I met the new foreigner. Carlos, from Costa Rica. Very nice bloke. And I know some of his secrets. They’re shocking and a blog might be a bad place to reveal them, even though none of my readers know said subject of secrets. But even aside from that, I don’t like to reveal the secrets of others.

Buuuut he’s a drinker, at least mildly, which is nice for Milena and I because it adds another person to party with. We started on Wednesday, working up every day until Saturday night, which was a shit-show, to put it in perfect words. It was great fun. A bonfire on the porch at the side of a river, great fun.

I had the next Monday off and Jes flew out of Madrid on Wednesday and I flew out to Italy on Thursday. So I went ahead and took the whole week off to go say goodbye to Jes. It’s funny, because she and I are great traveling partners, but we’ve never actually met stateside. We met in Ecuador, have traveled together in Spain and Morocco, and been good online friends, but since she lives on the East Coast and I on the West, we’ve never had the chance to run into each other except while abroad. Interesting.

So we stayed at a really fun youth hostel in Madrid. There were a lot of young people, even more than normal because schools were getting out in the States and all the adventuresome and well-to-do kids had taken to Europe to travel. There was an explosion of Americans, all doing the same thing, just with different stories. It was cool, but also a little odd, because we got grouped in with them usually. Which just erases the last seven months. But that’s okay. Not a big deal.

We went on a pub crawl the first night, which turned out to be super fun. We hung out with Serbian-Canadians. They were really nice. Jes, who has a boyfriend, knows how to work it for free drinks. She did so. Those boys definitely thought they were going to get laid. Haha, they definitely did not.

The next day we intended to go to the Museo del Prado but there was a line that wrapped all the way around the building. We’re not line people. So instead we walked all the way around Madrid, finally ending at 4pm in the Plaza Mayor for a tapas tour, which was delightful. We ate bull’s tail in chocolate sauce and fried pig’s ear. The first was good, the second was… bleh. A little too much fat for two people to handle. But fun. :)



We went back to the hostel early in the evening, chilled online (I enjoy being places with internet), and showered. The second game of the “Clasico”—rivalry between Barcelona and Real Madrid—was on TV, so we sat in the TV room with all the young people and watched.

Jes left early the next morning. I checked out on time and kinda snuck into the common area again to use their computers. I caught up on emails and booked hostels in Italy, so it was a very productive couple of hours. I hung out with one of the Serbians. He told me that the day before one of the guys staying in the hostel was sitting in the same computer chair I was sitting in, watching porn and rubbing himself. Sweet.

After I didn’t really have anything more to do on the computer, I grabbed my bags and headed for the park. I really like the park in Madrid. It’s like a Central Park, I supposed, but I feel like it’s a little more personal. There are little places to hide and feel like you’re so far disconnected from it all that no one would find you. So I sat and had a kebab picnic, napped in the sunshine, read, and hung out for as long as I could drag it out. Then I headed to the airport for the night.

The thing about Ryanair is that they like to do things in waves and at stupid times. It takes, at the very least, an hour to get through lines and to your gate with Ryanair and if you’re not careful and you get delayed in the process, you’re just out of luck. So, they like to fly people out at stupid hours of the morning. They have like at least eight flights leaving around 6am, meaning that you have to start getting in line by 4:00 or 4:30. Stupid. And metros in Madrid don’t start running until at least 6, I believe, and taxis from the center of town to the airport are more expensive than most flights. So sleeping in the airport, despite the discomfort, is really the best option. And luckily there are a lot of people doing it, so it never feels like at any moment someone could rob you and no one else would notice. There is a crowd of sympathetic travelers around at all times to lend a hand.

I had an extra reason to stick around the airport this time too. A new online friend from Florida who has been studying in Seville for the semester was leaving the same time as me the next morning to Amsterdam. So we met! Which was interesting. I always have this issue where I read characters differently and then when the movie comes out—or in this case I meet the person face-to-face—it’s sometimes hard to reconcile who the person really is with what I thought. Nice guy though.

I slept an hour that night, so it was good that I had slept in the park during the day. As a pro with the Ryanair system now, the process went smoothly the next morning. I got on the plane after only a minor setback where they changed the gate at the last minute. I was on my way to Italy!

I slept the entire flight. I actually have no idea how long the flight was because I was out just after take-off and woke up just before landing. Rough landing. Probably the roughest I’ve ever experienced. It was a little scary.

Once in Bergamo, I found the bus to Milan and hopped on. A lot of that head-bobbing you do when sleepy. It was about an hour busride.

The train station in Milan is incredible. And it’s just a train station. The train station there is more ornate and grand than probably any building in all of the United States.

I found the hostel on foot and then the grocery store while I was waiting to get a room. The hostel was adequate, but I wouldn’t go beyond that. The bed was very comfy. The staff was not friendly and I could tell that they were only there because they had to be. There were only two bathrooms for like 25 people, and the place was clean, but not fully so. The stairs still had grunge on them. And I had to wait for my room, which I didn’t mind, but it should have been ready long before it was. They banished me to the kitchen in the meantime, where I hung out and read. I met some great, nerdy Michiganians there. The kind that button their short-sleeve polos to the very top button. They were nice. And in the rest of the hostel I met a lot of other people. A nice Aussie girl who gave me a book that I had always meant to read, a Mexican who I ended up traveling with to Venice, and some nice English girls who wore way too much make-up and took their curling irons traveling with them.

The next morning I went walking all around Milan. I walked past Prada, La Perla, Armani, Luis Vuitton, Dolce & Gabanna, and lots of others. If I were a shopping woman, it would have been heaven (hell for the credit card). I got a picture in front of La Perla for my not-quite sisters. I saw the castle, the park, the Duomo and a protest against fascism, I think.



It was amazing how much Italian I remembered from only a semester at University and then how much I could understand beyond that because of how similar it is to Spanish. I love Italian, but I don’t know that the Milan accent is my favorite. I’m itching to go to the south for a taste of their accent. I’d love to take more Italian.

That night I was going to make myself pasta (I bought groceries at the grocery store, which ended up saving me a huge amount of money) and the Mexican I mentioned (named Cristian) was also upstairs in the kitchen. He studies gastronomy in France. So he offered to cook my food along with his! I ended up having a way better pasta meal than I would have otherwise. And it was nice to have someone to eat with. Apparently I’m drawn to Mexicans like magnets!

I talked to Davey for a while and then went to bed to be ready for Venice!

We took a train together the next morning to Venice. I had an open ticket, which means I’m not guaranteed a spot to sit. But by like the third stop there were seats open after people got off, so I got to take those. I ended up sitting next to two Americans who didn’t realize I spoke English. They thought I was Italian and I let them think that, but had to cut in when they said Vienna sausages and high class in the same sentence. Haha. They were surprised when I started laughing. We had a nice conversation. It’s so much fun to meet people while traveling and say, yeah, I’m American, but right now I live and work in Spain teaching English. People are always so impressed, which makes me feel really good about what I’m doing. They were from Connecticut and North Carolina and were in Prusia because they had bought old jet engines there that they converted to wind turbines for generating electricity. I think. Something like that. It sounded interesting.



I got off in Mestre, which is just before crossing over to the island of Venice. I parted with the Mexican, because he was staying somewhere else. We agreed to try to meet in Venice later, but because I only had internet on my kindle and no phone and he only had a phone and no internet, we agreed to contact via facebook if possible. I found my hostel with a little trouble. Well, trial and error. It was nice. Very quiet. Clean. Comfy bed. I read for a bit and then, oddly, two girls were placed in the beds next to me from none other than Washington state. Not only that but they were juniors or seniors at WSU! Not only that but they had been studying Spanish in Seville for a semester! What a small world! They were only in Venice for the night as well and then were headed to Rome the next day. They invited me to come with them into Venice, which was really nice because I ended up not being able to get into contact with Cristian



We had pizza and played around with a kitty in the street. Then we headed toward the main plaza, Piazzale San Marco, where we found a bottleneck to get in. Turns out the Pope was ccoming! What?! Fantastically, the Pope, two Washingtonians and I were all in Venice at the same time. So they checked our bags (rather lax, to be honest) and we went into the plaza and got a place in front of the metal border they had set up where he would come down. There we met a crazy Italian woman who wore way too much make-up (a bronzer that was about 6 shades too dark for her face), who I think was saying bad things to her neighbor about us while pretending to be nice to us. We also met a couple from Lithuania and a couple from Minnesota, who were REALLY nice. They had kids at home and were on a cruise for a week or so.

We were in the front row when the Pope came, gave his benediction, and then climbed on top of his ornate golf cart and drove along the little loop set up for him. He passed us twice. We were within like 6 feet of the Pope. Random.



We decided to top it off with gelato. I had peanut butter and chocolate. Soooo good. Then we took the train back to Mestre, showered, read and went to bed.

An aside: I’m reading Fountainhead right now, the other renowned Ayn Rand. It is soooo good. I think I like Atlas Shrugged better. But Fountainhead is different. It’s shorter, for one. And Atlas Shrugged was Rand’s magnum opus, so it’s like ka-bam. I don’t think I like the characters in Fountainhead quite as well. But the book has so many commentaries on truth, love, self-esteem, and self-contempt. It’s truly fascinating, but I still don’t understand it totally.

In the morning the girls were leaving for Rome, so I went with them. I could have gone back to Venice, but I would have had to do it with all my bags and I had seen a lot of it the night before, so I just called that good and left around the same time as the girls. I took a Regional train back to Milan, which was slower, but like half the price. And I got a seat without a problem.

When I got back to Milan, I was at the same hostel, they knew I was coming, and my room wasn’t ready again. And this time it was way later in the day before it was ready for me.

I had a very simple dinner because none of the grocery stores were open on a Sunday, so I ate the pasta that remained with some peas, olive oil and balsamic vinegar on top. It was actually quite good. And it did the job. I walked around some, read, and hung out. There were two new Canadians in my room, who turned out to be very odd. It was a boy and a girl, who were obviously boyfriend-girlfriend at some point, but by then were about to go separate ways. I felt like there must have been tension there that they hid form the publicness of a dorm style hostel room. One was traveling to Venice the next morning and the other to Rome. Alone. Maybe they were sick of each other?

I got sick of them pretty quickly. Usually I love Canadians, but these ones were particularly judgmental. I know people don’t like Americans and I don’t mind “stupid American” jokes most of the time because they can be accurate. We are ugly travelers, in general. What I don’t like is being attacked personally as a part of that stereotype. I have worked hard to expand my horizons and be a global citizens and not create a stir wherever I go. And these Canadians kind of attacked me. I was not a fan.

The next morning I got up and went to the park and the castle, and ended at the Duomo, where I went inside and also climbed to the top. Lots of stairs!



It is the most ornate church I have ever seen, and I have seen a lot of churches and cathedrals in my day! A thousand ornate details to everything. It seems odd to me that cathedrals like that are built to the glory of God and then inside they have collection plates to help the poor. If they had enough money to build the place to begin with, there should be far fewer poor around to help because it seems like more of the money should have gone straight to the masses. And don’t get me wrong, I’m all for building beautiful things, it just seems odd to make it THAT big and THAT ornate and then to beg for money to help the poor. Then again, I don’t think churches today don’t operate the same as they did in the Gothic period when the Duomo was built.



I enjoy normalcy in traveling. It’s nice to be going and moving all the time, but I love it when hostels have kitchens where I can cook because it makes me feel more at home, even in the midst of not knowing what’s going to happen next. Anyway, ate another simple dinner, met a Peruvian, talked on the internet most of the night, and went to bed. Since this trip was right after Osama bin Laden’s death, I got a LOT of questions about that. I also get a lot of questions about Obama and politics, which I just hate talking about. It’s part of what I was saying earlier. I’m my own person, and the political climate of the US is not what defines me. And it frustrates me that politics is what people want to talk about when they meet me, because, of course, every American must be super politically charged. The Peruvian was super nice, but he proceeded to lecture me for two hours about the faults in American culture. I also can’t stand that as well. People make judgments about America based on what the see on TV and in movies. And while I form ideas about other unknown countries the same way, I never go into a situation saying, “this is how this country is because I saw it on MTV.” If I really suspect that a country is a certain way, I ask my new-found friends about it. Is it true that…? I don’t just assume. I take the media with a grain of salt, not forming a concrete opinion until I have experienced it for myself or someone who really knows can tell me just what goes down. And it’s always such a turn-off when people tell me, oh well I know about America because I see it in the movies. The Peruvian was lecturing me about, I don’t know, something about how we use too much electricity and we don’t recycle in America. And while I agree with him, I also don’t think he knows a damn thing about it. I recycle and I conserve energy. He’s never even been to the United States and he told me, “quite frankly, I have no desire to visit a place like that.” Thanks, thanks a lot. That’s the country I love. Thanks for crushing parts of my personality and identity.

It just frustrates me because it’s everything I have worked against. I’m not the typical ugly traveling American, I’m not the girl who leaves every light on in the house, I don’t own a convertible and talk on my cell phone all the time. And I don’t appreciate people making judgments on a country that, while it has its flaws, is one of the best places on earth. I love that I can walk outside at night in many places and not feel scared. And I like that I can drive an hour and be at a National Park with buffalo and elk and grizzlies. And I like that people smile at one another and do things occasionally just because it is nice and someone else needs help. It’s total ignorance to judge based on third-person and through mass media. And you’re just being a jerk if you tell me who I MUST be because I’m American. Grow up and move past the stereotyping and profiling. If you’re not interested to know who I actually am, rather than telling me who I must be, then I’m not interested in giving you the same basic human courtesy.

Okay, sorry. Rant. It’s past.

The next morning I walked the dark streets of Milan to the train station. It was actually a very pleasant walk. I was a little sad to be leaving Italy. I’ll definitely be going back. I caught the bus to Bergamo, where I got on my plane without any trouble and flew to Madrid. I went to the train station in Madrid and got my number to get in line for a ticket. I tell you, they need a new system for selling tickets. The shorter trains sell tickets via machine and I can understand wanting to sell longer tickets at desks, but for the Media Distancia that I have to catch from Madrid to Castuera, it makes no sense to have to wait an HOUR just to buy the ticket in person at a desk. They should get machines. So while I was waiting for my number to be called, I left the station to buy water, a pop, and a sandwich to eat on the train. It was perfect timing. I got back to the ticket office and I was three numbers away from being called. I bought my ticket, sat and read for a bit, and then went to board my train.

It was good to get home. I always enjoy coming home after traveling. And it still amazes me that this is home. I know I don’t always like it, but amazingly it does feel like home after traveling. Who would have known that Spain could eventually morph into a semblance of home?

Monday, May 16, 2011

Semana Santa

There is a little to catch up on before going into the Semana Santa trip. So here goes…

First, Katya is gone. I had a dinner at my house kind of in her honor the weekend before she was supposed to leave. We had a bottle of wine between the three of us (Milena, Katya and I—Bharathi doesn’t drink) but somehow managed to get quite tipsy from it. Milena spilled some wine on her white shirt and so, rather than being all bummed about it, she let Katya paint the other breast with wine to match. I have pictures. Delightful wine breast painting session. :)

We tried to go out that night with the Mexicans, but they had many guests in their flat to entertain and therefore couldn’t really afford to give us much attention, and since Batikano (bar) was mostly dead that night anyway, the night came to a close early.

The next day, the Mexicans put on a workshop for their guests and for the town on graffiti painting and making furniture out of cardboard. It was great fun, but we were tired and Milena and I left early. The furniture was actually quite cool.

The next week was fairly boring, except for the rather catastrophic hit my friendship with Milena took. Details are unimportant and unnecessary, but suffice it to say that Milena apologized as well as she knew how, I forgave her with a new maturity that has sprung up as of late, and we sat smoking in the main park in Castuera for hours hashing it out and piecing things back together. I have never smoked more than four cigarettes in one day—I think I smoked eight that night.

I had been debating how to use my next weekend because the Mexicans had invited us to go to Cáceres with them, but I didn’t want to get bored with the Mexicans or the girls and was considering going to see our English friend Nick in Cabeza del Buey by myself instead. I ended up doing that. Despite the fresh forgiveness that felt so healthy, it was good to have a weekend away from that crowd.

Nick and I really didn’t do anything. Which was what was so nice about it. :) We had a deeeeeeep talk the first night and then just hung out and read, listened to music, and searched for internet the next day. I was content.

The next weekend was Festivalino—a music festival in a town called Pescueza, near Cáceres. It’s a tiny town that puts on this music festival every year and draws thousands of people to its tiny main plaza and windy streets, where there are two stages squished in with live music, along with a big stage set out in a field outside the city, reminiscent of Woodstock. Lots of hippies. Lots of fun. It was somewhat awkward with the older Spanish people watching over us, but we had a good time anyway. My favorite band was the main attraction, which was some sort of reggae/Scottish folk/rap mix. It was soooooo good. Surprisingly good for such an odd sound. So catchy. I want to find some of their music and get it. They wore kilts on stage and, though Milena and Philipp and I left before this happened, they allegedly flashed everyone in the audience after finishing their last song. They were not wearing underwear.



And the next day there was a Top 40s DJ set up in the field outside the city. Really good music too, but I was the only one dancing in our group with much interest. One thing Spain has taught me—how to dance. I think I’m a better dancer since coming here just because I have lost the fear of looking stupid. They all stare at me anyway, as if I have some kind of American flag stamped on my forehead. So I just danced.

On Wednesday the 13th, I got on a train (hyperventilating and nearly throwing up from fear, mind you) to Madrid, after spending several hours cooking pasta with all the veggies and meat that would spoil before I got back, to take with me and trying to figure out how to get it into the milk bottle that I could throw away later, only to realize once I got it in that I had no idea how to get the pasta back out. That was a process, write to me if you want to know more. I saw the city of Madrid that evening and found that it’s a terribly romantic city when it is warm—the typical European romance you imagine. I heard about eight different languages and everyone from my age to 35 was out, plus many of the other ages were out as well. In Castuera, the only people that come out are the old men, the young kids, and the mothers that spoil them. There are no young people. I wonder why? Oh yeah, because no young person with their soul intact wants to subject it to the slow cynical slaughter of nothingness that is a small town. They move away and try to do something with their lives. But Madrid was actually pleasant to be outside. Unlike the times I saw it before with my mom and David. I’m sorry that you two had to miss Madrid in warmth, because it’s way better.

I slept overnight in the airport (got hit on by a French gentleman who spoke like zero English but made the effort for my pretty face anyway), ate my pasta from a bottle in a private bathroom away from the prying eyes of passersby (at first with the fork that I eventually abandoned and then finally just tipping the whole bottle upside down and slurping it through one mouthful at a time), and washed my face in the public bathroom, woohoo!

And here is where my journaling enters. I kept a journal on paper to be transferred to this blog, but I didn’t have much internet, so my readers—okay, reader—will be getting it in one large clump. So, if it seems disjointed, that’s because it is. :D

At 4:30am I was awakened by a nice security officer and told to stop sleeping on the floor. It was time to get in the delightful Ryanair line anyway. Which ended up taking like a freaking hour to get through, only to find out I was in the wrong line, at which point I cut into the correct line, got checked in, and raced to security. Once I got my bag on the conveyer belt and stepped through, the man stopped me. I had a fork (from the pasta) and water still in my water bottle. Weird thing was, they didn’t even care about the fork. I just showed it to them and they were like, yeah, whatever. The water, on the other hand, was a bigger deal to them. Already crunched for time, I was told to go back to the other side of security, dump the water, and do the whole process again. I couldn’t just dump it now? I had only forgotten, that was all, and I would have gladly dumped it. No, I had to go back through. I angrily zipped my backpack back up and turned to go back through, but couldn’t figure out how to do it. The lanes of security were full of people coming towards me and the other ways were blocked. I looked back at the officials who had told me to go back through. They were absorbed with something new. I took my chance and fled. I illegally went through. :) No one came after me.

Then there was immigration control. My visa is expired (completely normal—the visa only lasts three months and that’s why I had to get a residency card upon arriving) and so the policeman inside the big glass box glared at me and demanded my residency card, which I thought I didn’t have. He griped and complained and looked at me overly sternly and said he hoped I would be able to get back in. But he stamped my passport and let me through.

Then there was the line for the plane (I found my residency card). I got to the front and they were checking bag sizes VERY carefully, which I was worried about. I mean, I only had my small backpack with me, but I had never checked to make sure that it would pass inspection. And there were several people in front of me whose baggage did not make the cut and they were having to shell out to get the bags to their destination by checking them. Luckily, mine barely slid into the checker thingy. Phew.

So, a too-early wake up, an hour of frustrating lines, illegally passing through security, illegally passing through immigration, and barely passing the bag size check later, I was on my flight. It was short and I was to Marrakech (I got to watch the sun rise over the Straights of Gibraltar as we were flying over it—hell yeah!) within two hours. Woohoo! Morocco! Yeah, it makes me one of the coolest people I know.



And then I spent 12 hours in the Marrakech airport waiting for Jes. Haha. Anticlimactic.

I would have gone out into the city and planned to, but the person that I was to meet canceled on me the day before and mostly I was just afraid of being trapped outside of the airport with no way to contact Jes. So I waited between immigration and customs. I exchanged some euros to dirhams (1 euro=10 dirhams). Lots of reading. It wasn’t so bad. I had a nice seat in the corner, where the bag boys apparently normally hang out. They seemed a little frustrated that I was always there every time they wanted to sneak a break and gossip together. And there were some airport officials that were worried about me and I think even offered to find me some food, but they only spoke French and my French, well, it’s not so good. So no communication there.

Then Jes showed! Really good to see hear and many of my fears were calmed. We changed money and found the bus to the city bus station for 20 dirham (which I don’t know what that is in USD, but it’s about 2 euros… I realize that means nothing to any readers, but work with me—I’ve lost the ability to double convert and speak in terms of euros these days). When we got to the bus station, we were immediately attacked by people harassing us to go where their buses went. No! We don’t want to go there! But they could give us such a deal! We found a nice man who helped us make the necessary phone calls to find out where we needed to go and we bought an overnight ticket to Zagora for that night. Of course, the young man charged us an extra 10 dirham over what he should have. Welcome to Morocco. No one does anything for free here. But we appreciated the help and didn’t mind paying the equivalent of one euro extra.

The bus ride was rough. We had all our luggage in our laps and my chair was broken. It wouldn’t have been so bad had I been sitting in the broken seat next to the window, but I was on the aisle. The arm to the seat wouldn’t stay in the upright position, so I had nothing keeping me in the seat and out of the aisle. So any turns—and there were a lot of winding turns that we were blind to on the way there but saw plainly on the way back in the daylight—had me falling out of the seat. To make it worse, we were right behind a partition, so I couldn’t stretch my legs out under the seat in front of me. And just when it can’t get worse, the recline function was broken. I was sitting stock-straight and falling into the aisle for all 8 hours of that bus ride. Jes slept. I did not. I’m still a bit bitter. But we made it in one piece and it was certainly an experience.

We got to Zagora at 7am and were immediately met by someone who asked if we had a place to stay. He said he was from couchsurfing, but he was not our guy. We thought, hmmm… it’s still a little weird that they’re so outrageously eager to host us. But we called Samadoo from a pay phone (my phone was out of money because apparently making calls with it from Morocco eats up like two euros per minute!) and he was there within ten minutes! He and his friend Obama took us to the Kasbah. It all felt a little commercial, so I asked Samadoo straight up (I’ve learned from months with non-native speakers that directness isn’t perceived as rude and it really is the only way to be understood well) if this was a business of his or something. He said no and almost seemed frightened that we had asked that. We did not understand.

A Kasbah is like a labyrinth. It’s a huge community of “houses” built together and sharing walls made of mud. The floors are dirt, there is little to no running water, and no lights. To get to Samadoo’s little area of the Kasbah, we had to walk through the labyrinth. Once you enter the Kasbah, everything changes. The outside world we’d just traveled through disappeared, the temperature dropped a good twenty degrees, and everything went quiet. I say that the Kasbah is like a community, but I’m not actually entirely sure. I mean, we saw people in the passageways as we went to Samadoo’s, but as far as other living areas, I don’t have a clue. I have no idea if other people lived there.



So we met the Taiwanese couple and the Japanese couple that were already staying there (another reason it felt commercial, because generally couchsurfers can’t host more than three people at a time and hosting three different parties of people would be a big deal with working out logistics and all). They were very nice. They went to the desert and we would have liked to go with them, but there was not room. So we just chilled out on the first day. We went into the town—Samadoo’s Kasbah community is like ten minutes out of the town of Zagora—with Samadoo and went into a shop where we had tea with the shop owner, bought head scarves, and hung out. Then we met up with Obama (who does not speak English) and we all went to a hotel nearby and had some beers. They paid. And they were paying for our taxis each time. We kept feeling weirder and weirder about it. The guys swam in the pool at the hotel.

Because of the heat of the day, Jes and I got tipsy pretty quickly on only two beers each, so we went back to the Kasbah and took a little nap and had some lunch. We tried tajine for the first time. We ate tajine with bread, using only our hands. It was hard for me to come back to Spain again where they use utensils. Anyway, we helped prepare the tajine by peeling the vegetables. The flies were terrible.

Later in the evening Obama took us for a walk behind the Kasbah. It was a huge grove of palm trees in a valley with fields of different things growing amongst mud walls that separated property. It was pretty cool. Also really awkward though, because Obama doesn’t speak English and so he walked ahead of us about twenty feet at all times and didn’t say a word. We just followed. For like two hours.



We got to a river where we sat on the banks and Obama made is little miniature camels (dromidarios!) out of reeds that were by the river. There were little boys fishing and they flirted with us. Jes kept taking flash pictures and they would get all shy and run away and then be back again within a minute. And we obviously didn’t understand a word they said because neither one of us understand Arabic, French, or any of the local languages of Morocco. :)

We went back to the Kasbah where we laid on the roof for a while looking at the stars. We had some wine with tajine dinner with the two boys and then went to bed.



The next day was bad weather. I didn’t know that you could really consider just wind bad weather, because I don’t really count wind as weather. It’s more just movement to me. But in Zagora it was a sandstorm. So it was looking like our desert trip was a no-go. We made them find someone anyway. Obama took us into town, where we got something to eat. I went to buy water (a very nice man who spoke some English helped me find a place) and on the way was stopped by a desert trip salesman. He said he did the trips for 35 euros per person. Obama had quoted us at 70. So I knew something was up. I went back to the restaurant and told Jes and we agreed to talk to Obama. When he came back for us, we spoke with gestures and tiny bits of English. He said it was because the trip we were going on was 70 euros for big dunes, or there was a 35 euro one on little dunes. We told him we wanted little dunes. He said he would get us the big dune for 35.

So we set out. It took three legs of taxis to get to our destination and just before the last leg, Obama went to buy cigarettes and I asked if he would buy me some. He then asked if we wanted to smoke hashish. We said sure. As we were leaving the hashish deal, we saw a policeman. He pulled us over and the driver and Obama got out of the car to talk to him. Us two pretty young things were left in the car alone. The policeman had seen them at the drug dealer’s house. Obama even got in the car with him for some reason. Maybe to be questioned? Maybe for a bribe? We don’t know. But everything was fine. Obama came back, showed us that he had left the tiny brick of hashish in the car with us, and we set out once again.

The wind was whipping the desert. We smoked some of the hashish on the way there and it hit hard. I guess I didn’t know much about hashish. We drove for a long time—maybe an hour? We went over a mountain pass of sorts and drove more. Then we went off the road. At this point I started to get nervous. We had no exit strategy. I was scared. If this was some sort of trick, there was no way out of it. We were two beautiful young American women in the car in the middle of the Sahara desert with two Moroccan men.

We busted through sand drifts with the car just like you would bust through a snow drift. We finally made it to the tent with the camels. We had tea and sat to wait as the wind blew hard-core. I should explain this tent. It wasn’t like a tent really, I would say more like a yurt. It was a box, with walls made of some sort of slender wood, covered in carpets and blankets to try to impede the entry of sand. Along the walls were cushions with tables scooted up to them. The floor was made of rugs on top of the sand of the Sahara desert.

(Moroccan style facilities.)


So anyway, we ate fresh almonds and drank tea and smoked more hashish. It seems that when the wind blows as hard as it was blowing, the Moroccans just have to wait it out. There were about eight men in the tent and they just hung out in the darkness of the tent and waited for it to stop. We napped. The hashish definitely affected my dreams, though how it affected my dreams is only for me to know. :)



We went hiking on the dunes for a bit. Obama was just awkward. We didn’t know what to do with him. Our cameras were crunching and protesting because of the sand that had made it into everything we owned at that point. Jes’s quit working altogether for a while.

We had dinner and left the camel-riding until morning, since the wind was still blowing. We watched the sun set…



There was a full moon (Dude, a full moon outside of the tent where we slept in the middle of the Sahara desert—I felt like my life was unreal). The tent was nice, albeit sandy. There were four little tents outside of the big one. We got a tent to ourselves. It was less protective than the big tent because it was just made of wool, but by the time we were ready for bed the wind wasn’t really blowing so it didn’t matter. It was comfortable. And we were hyper.

Obama woke us up for the sunrise…



The sunrise on the Sahara desert. Sheesh. It was awesome. We had a breakfast of bread and cheese. Then we got our stuff together and got on the camels! We rode them out to the main road, where we caught a taxi. The camels were cranky. They were soooooo tall! And quite smooth riding really. I felt badass. How many people can say they rode camels on the Sahara desert? Not many. At least not amongst my circle.



The taxi we caught had a large assortment of people already in it. When I say taxi, it’s a really funny thing. There are like a thousand taxis around at all times. They are like the 1980s hatchback Honda Civic wagons, the color of mellow urine. They’re old and well-used and pretty shitty. They reminded me of all the buses in Ecuador and how the Ecuadorian bus driver’s would pimp their rides with the frilly velvet curtains and plush dashboard toppers. Hilarious. So anyway, there we were, crammed into a taxi the color of urine with at least 9 other Moroccans, some men and some women, half of which are wearing turbans.

We went to the supermarket, to a very old Jewish Kasbah (Jes is Jewish, so it was cool for her) where there was a synagogue that would have fit maybe 20 people in it at most, and a ceramics fabrication place. The walls were lined with beautiful dishes dyed amazing colors with natural dyes. I bought 6 bowls that are just lovely.



We were feeling herded and babysat and it was driving us nuts. We would ask Samadoo if he could walk us to the road and tell the taxi driver where to take us and we would go on our own. But nooooo. We had to wait for them and then all go as one big family. They had new couchsurfers and they were taking them into town for something and said we could just go eat with them. We wanted to go to the hotel where we were two days earlier and eat there. We got in the taxi and they were just going to drive on past the hotel so that we would stay with them. It took a very sturdy, “No, please stop here,” to be able to get away from them. It was seriously getting on our nerves and freaking us out!

So we went to that hotel. There was a swimming pool and an outside shower, and since there was no running water in the Kasbah, we figured we would just swim a bit and rinse off and then casually use some shampoo in the outside shower. It felt awkward, but turned out just fine. And we ate lunch there. The man working was very nice. Very helpful. I had a coke, a beer, fish, and salad. It was sooooo good.

Samadoo met us there after a while and then we left and met up with Obama. We watched Obama eat in a restaurant, wandered around for a little bit and then went back to the Kasbah for the night. We had intended to take the night bus out back to Marrakech, but staying another night made more sense. We smoked more hashish, had tajine, drank wine. We sat on the roof for a while and it seemed like they wanted to maybe make moves on us or something but didn’t know how. So we said goodnight and they wanted us to stay. We left anyway and climbed down the stairs to our bed on the floor. I was well hashished when I got into bed. Jes said I giggled and talked in my sleep that night. Apparently I said something like “Don’t do it” or “I won’t do it.”

We were up early the next morning to catch the 6am bus and after we were all packed and ready, Samadoo said taxis didn’t run that early. So we went back to bed a little angry to get up for the 10am taxi. We woke up at 9:30 thinking that we were going to be late, but Samadoo then told us we could catch the bus right outside of the Kasbah, eliminating the need to go into town. Why he didn’t tell us that at 6am so we could catch that one, we don’t know. It was frustrating. But they had a nice breakfast for us, which was nice.

They took us out to the top of the hill outside the Kasbah and we waited for the bus. We got on the bus after an awkward goodbye. They really wanted us to stay. As soon as we got on that bus and it started moving, I let out a sigh of relief. We had escaped whatever that weird experience of staying with them had been.

The bus ride was long and hot, but beautiful. I was definitely sweating the whole time. Jes kept trying to take up two seats, while there were people having to stand. I was frustrated by that because it made me feel guilty for traveling with her.

I made two new friends during the ride, one of which gave me and Jes boxes of dates as presents and the other of which I think was being lewd but I couldn’t understand his come-ons. I gave out my number to both of them. Haha. The lewd one spoke like no English but he was bound and determined to keep hitting on me. I think he was 19, but he looked 30. Not in a bad way. He definitely had sex appeal that isn’t terribly inherent in shy 19-year-olds. But he kept talking to me in French and I would understand little bits and pieces and at some point understood that he was asking if we could make a baby (maybe in an attempt to communicate that he wanted to have sex with me?). Haha. So I lied to him and told him that I had a boyfriend in Nicaragua. I’m not sure that he even understood me because he continued his unintelligible lewd comments, but now with a little more finesse, since you don’t openly ask a taken woman for sex. Jes slept through all of this. :) I read all during the time I was not a sex object.

Arrived in Marrakech a sticky 9 hours later. We took a taxi to the hostel, which was really cool. It had a central open courtyard and pretty good bathrooms. We were going to stay with another couchsurfer, but he cancelled at the last minute. We showered and then banded with some fellow travelers and went to the main square in Marrakech that is so famous. It’s called the Fna something. Yes, the one that was bombed a week later.





We ate dinner with an American, 3 Brits and a girl from Singapore in the square from one of the carts. Then we had ice cream with the girl from Singapore and went walking around. We ended up in a street that was dark with a few men, at least one of whom was drunk. I said, “Let’s get out of here.” The girls listened. Thank goodness for survival skills! So we went back to the hostel.

The next day (4/19) we walked a lot with the 3 Brits and the American (2 of the Brits and the American are teaching English in Madrid!), saw the Jardin Majorelle,



ate tajine again, went shopping, had “Epic Mojitos,”



made friends with an older Aussie woman, and smuggled a kitten into the hostel. :) It was this tiny little thing and it was hungry, so we put him in my bag and smuggled him into the hostel and gave him some of our cheese. Sooo cute.



The next morning I got my monthly visitor! Woohoo! So our spice-buying excursion with our Aussie friend was delayed a bit, but then we went out with her and her dog to the place where she buys her spices. Oh, and she is a chef—she even teaches cooking at her hotel in Marrakech. So we trusted her spice picking abilities. She was so nice. I bought 360 dirhams worth of spices.



Then we took a taxi to the train station. Edwina our Aussie friend told us that it should cost no more than 15 dirhams. So he originally said 40 (is our skin that white?) and we finally got him down to 15, or so we thought. We paid him the 15 and got out and he chased after us. He chased us down for 5 more dirham, but we were firm. We had agreed on 15. And it was frustrating and embarrassing because you don’t want to be taken advantage of, but you also don’t want to be a cheap-skate.

So we got our train tickets for a night train to Tangier for the next day. We walked down a flowery boulevard back towards the city center. We saw the Royal Theater, which was huge and cool, still under construction. We walked more, past a park.

One of the things on our list was to visit one of the mosques, but it turns out we weren’t allowed in. That was sad. So we kept walking after getting lost several times and went to Badi Palace, which was not that awesome. Mostly it was just crumbling walls. But we were tire, so we went back to the hostel, showered, finished postcards, etc.

We set out to eat and then shop afterwards, but we didn’t end up getting any shopping done because the shops closed. But we ate a good dinner with our Aussie roommate from the hostel in the square again. We split up to go shopping, which didn’t turn out well, so we went back to the hostel.

So the next day we got up kinda early and ate breakfast, showered, and packed up our stuff to store at the hostel until later. We had a few more things to do on our list, as well as some shopping from the night before. We saw the tombs, which were packed with people. I was bummed, because we didn’t get to see the men’s tombs because we didn’t have the patience to stand in line, but apparently it was way cooler than the women’s tombs. But we’re not line people, so we said screw it.

Then we saw the arch into the city, which was cool. Then the Bahia Palace, which was, in fact, a palace, unlike the other crumbling ruins. It was funny because the Morocco book that I have said about the Badi that it was simplistic compared to the Bahia. Yeah, if simplistic means crumbling mud walls and bird shit. Bahia had lots of lovely tile work.



Then shopping! We got everything we were looking for, and even stopped for lunch, which was chicken couscous and fries. I got really good at being a hard ass when bargaining. Even in taxis they’d say, “okay 50 dirhams” and I’d say, “no, 20,” and they’d say, “okay, 40 dirhams,” and I’d say, “no, 20,” and so on and so forth until we finally agreed on 20. I got a kick out of it. Then we headed back out and as we were crossing the plaza, a woman came up to Jes and said she did Henna tattoos and would give her a sample, so she pulls out this huge injector thing that looked like a shot with a needle and everything. I thought she was going to stab Jes with a dirty needle! So I was already freaked out. We had been told that the Henna women will do their job even if you don’t ask for it and then ask for way more money than it is worth afterwards. And we had wanted tattoos before leaving, but since we still had more to do before leaving, we wanted to get it all done and then come back for Henna before the train. But this woman kept drawing with her Henna needle, which turned out to not be a needle, just a syringe filled with Henna without the needle. But she just kept going and Jes kept pulling her arm away and saying we would come back later but the woman would not let her go. She was clawing at her arm and she had a partner there to help if things got ugly. Finally Jes got away and the woman came after her and wiped it all off angrily. Jes and I practically ran away.

I had been freaked out the whole time this was happening, but Jes didn’t really seem to mind much. But by the time we got to the teapot store we had planned to go to, her delayed reaction manifested. We were both shocked. I was terrified. It felt nice to be inside a shop and not on the street. We had no desire to bargain and we definitely gave up on Henna. Sheesh.

We packed up our new purchases and hung out on the roof of the hostel for a while to wait for the train. We took off our pants and sunbathed a little. Just chillin like villains, trying to let the shock slide off.

We made it to the train station (after causing a minor taxi uprising in the process because we flagged on down instead of going to the first in a line of taxis) and ate pizza in the station and then got McFlurrys. All on Jes’s mom’s credit card! :) It was sooo delicious. And we were hyper. After glaring angrily at some stuck-up French girls, we got silly again and hopped onto the train. We had a sleeper in the first class and it was super nice. The beds were really comfortable and we had a cabin all to ourselves. We slept the whole night.

When we got to Tangier the next morning all refreshed, we decided not to stick around. So we took a taxi straight to the port in the pouring rain. And we were soaked but made it into the trailer where we could buy tickets for the ferry, yet this stupid ferry company didn’t accept credit cards. Idiots. How can a company that big not accept credit cards. So I had to go back out in the rain to search for an ATM. I was pissy by the time I got back to the trailer and paid, completely soaked. We barely made the ferry because we didn’t realize we were supposed to walk out to the boat. We were waiting where everyone else was waiting.

But we made it on after a long walk out the wharf. It was a very comfy ferry. It was 30-45 minutes across the Straight of Gibraltar and quite pleasant. We went through immigration and got new stamps in our passports and got to show our Spain residency cards. Then we caught a bus from Tarifa to Algeciras, where we could catch a bus or train to anywhere. I was grumpy. I always regret being grumpy.

Since we were back in Spain, my Kindle worked again, meaning that I had internet again. Not that I did much with it, but it was internet anyway.

We waited in Fuengirola for maybe 20 minutes before our next couchsurfing host came to pick us up. This host was a real gold mine. We were getting a little haggard from traveling, and going to Fuengirola was a blessing. Mona and her husband, Jerry, took us in for two nights and we were part of the family. Mona is Norwegian and Jerry Polish. When we got to her house, we found that she has a complex of four different living areas in three different houses and she rents three of the areas out and she and her family lives in the other. If she doesn’t have all the areas rented out, she opens them up to couchsurfers like us as a way to expose her children to many different cultures.

But we didn’t just get to meet Mona and her three adorable kids. We got to meet the WHOLE family. Her parents, sister, and family friends were visiting from Norway, along with some friends of her husband from Australia. Mona and Jerry believe in learning through play and have been raising their kids with those principles in mind, so when we got to the house, we found it full of like 7 children. It was a sprinkly day, so they had a fire going in the fireplace and we came in, sat down, and they offered us a glass of wine. I nearly broke down. It was so wonderful to be with a family again. It’s been so long since I had anything like that. Sure, I’ve been working with kids for seven months, but not in a family setting. And we were asked questions about ourselves and people were interested in us more than just how many dirhams we had on us at the time. Sheesh. I can’t describe how wonderful it was.

And since it was Easter weekend, they had hidden all the eggs for an egg hunt but had waited for us to come so we could enjoy it too. :) So we watched all the kids find the eggs hidden in the cracks in the stone walls and inside the shoes piled by the door.

They invited us to go that first night to a wine dinner, but it was a 30 euro cover, which was just a little out of our tiny budgets, so we got to stay home with the kids and watch Barbie fairy movies.

One of Mona’s kids, Jordan, is probably about 6 or 7 years old and one of the cutest things I’ve seen in a long time. He’s not fair-skinned but fairly tan, with platinum blond hair and a quirk in his speech that made him irresistible. I wanted to pinch his tan little cheeks every time he spoke. And he was a flirt, a real ladies’ man—learned, no doubt, from having two older sisters.

Aisha was the oldest—a girl of maybe 10?—and she was a lot quieter and more well-behaved than the middle child, Maia, who was loud, a little crude, and easily distracted by the television. Maia seemed way more spoiled than the other two, which is interesting because middle children tend to be the most well-behaved. And I don’t say that because I’m a middle child. But she was very head-strong. There at least was our similarity.

The next morning we woke up and had breakfast with the family, which was great because it was a Norwegian breakfast, which included caviar in a tube, bacon in a tube, cream cheese, cold meats and other great cheeses, all put on bread. With coffee. It was delicious!

We went off with Mona’s sister to the city center and beach of Fuengirola to “shop.” Jes and I are NOT shoppers, but our guide definitely was, so I think we put a damper on her shopping mood. :) But we had fun anyway. Didn’t buy anything, for sure.

Then we went back to the house and read. Jes made her famous brownies with the secret ingredient (no, not hash). And we stole Aladdin from the other house and watched it in our living area in the calm of the afternoon. Oh so delightful. And when we were reading outside we watched Jonas, Mona’s little nephew of 6 years, run around first without pants or underwear because he just didn’t like them that much. Then, after he got in trouble with the grown-ups for that, he put the whole ensemble back on, but entirely backwards. Jeans. Backwards. Haha, I don’t know how he didn’t notice the zipper in the back.

That night we had a big family dinner where there was lots of wine, lots of speeches, and lots of laughter. We felt so at home. It was a truly wonderful Easter dinner. Then afterward we got ready for karaoke, which ended up being a bust because there was no one in the bars, but it was still fun. And definitely fun to party with the adults. :)



Our final day in Fuengirola we got up and felt a little more awkward than we had felt before with the family. I guess it’s always what the say about guests and fish: they begin to smell after only a little while! So we read in our quarters, packed, and Mona drove us to the Cercanías, which is like a commuter train, to Málaga, where we caught a bus to Córdoba. We checked into our hostel in Córdoba and went walking and had tapas. I realized that this was the Spain that I loved—red geraniums in the window boxes, narrow streets, cafes on the street. Definitely a more awesome and picturesque atmosphere than Castuera. Castuera has its good things too, but this was the real Spain. So beautiful.



We came to Córdoba to see the arches in the mosque that Jes had learned about in her art history class. I only got to see pictures afterwards because they weren’t open that night and I had to be on a bus to Castuera at 7am the next morning. But the town was well-worth visiting anyway. I was bummed I didn’t have more time.

I didn’t sleep much that night, as I was appreciating the internet I had. Got up at 5:30 and left by 6:15 to walk through the dark, abandoned streets to the bus station, which the receptionist had marked wrong on the map. Luckily I had gotten stuck in Córdoba one night before on the way home from diving and had made the same walk before. :)

I caught the bus at 7am and read the whole time, watching the sunrise through the fog that had settled over quiet Spanish villages tucked into the hills of Analucía. Mmmmm…



And back to Castuera by 10:30am, ready to teach classes again the next morning. Next adventures to come, stay tuned... :) Light and love.

Emily

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

A Busy Month

Let’s talk about the weather! It has gotten warmer since last time I wrote, although it keeps teasing me, playing with my affections, telling me it’s going to be warm and then going cold again. Just like a woman. Today it is overcast and rainy, and last night was clear as a bell, which left today a little colder than it would have been otherwise.

I got a roommate a week ago. Susana, one of the teachers I teach with in all the grades from pre-school to third grade, has a sister who had breast cancer (maybe even died from it, I don’t know) and they found a lump on Susana’s breast, so she went into surgery. And from what I understood with my shaky Spanish, they removed her entire breast! Anyway, so they had to get a new teacher, whose name is Inma, and Inma needed a place to stay. It’s nice to be sharing rent for a month. And she’s quiet and clean and I’m cleaner when I know someone else has to live with me. Plus, she has a husband and child in a town an hour or so away and so she goes home every weekend, meaning that she’s only really here 5 days/4nights out of the week. It’s a NICE set-up.

I’m more than halfway through HP4. I love Harry Potter. Period. I would marry him if he would just come out of this damn book.

Carnaval is a blast. Let’s just get that stated. So for Carnaval (which is basically like an extended Mardi Gras, the celebration before the start of Lent), I dressed up three times. Dressing up for Carnaval is very important here. I bought a costume and dressed as an Egyptian for the school, which was pretty fun. Nine grades of kids dressed as Cleopatras and Pharaohs marching down the street. Pretty adorable, albeit cold.



That afternoon I went out for a drink with the teachers, which is always a little awkward, but really pretty fun. I love the teachers in the infant area of the school, because they always take me under their wings at teacher functions, so Toñi told me how cute I looked and she and her husband kept buying me beer. :) I love the phrase “te invito” because I bat my eyelashes and say thank you and get free alcohol. I always liked being a girl in the States because it meant getting drinks for free sometimes, but it’s even more so here. Especially if I stumble over my words adorably when I go to chat with the inviter. :) Yes, I am a woman and I have been taught how to be the beloved.

Anyway, so I went home with a buzz, napped for a couple of hours and went to the supermarket with Milena (the Polish girl) to buy some drinks for that night. Which is to say, a bottle of vodka and some juice.

We had a girl’s evening after finishing working on the third costume that would be worn on Saturday. I went upstairs to the girls’ flat and we sat around and chatted, put on make-up and got dressed up. Bharathi (Indian girl) let me use her sari, so I went as an Indian girl. It was GREAT. And Milena and I started in on our bottle of vodka, and we got a good way into it. The gentlemen from Mexico showed up and escorted us to the main plaza where a tent was set up for the fiesta. We danced all night. Haha, that’s all that need be said.



It was a good time, and then the girls left because they thought I had gone home, so I was left with the three Mexicans and the Spaniard, who were good enough to escort me back to the girls’ flat, where Bharathi got me out of the sari and into bed. I forgot to drink the bottle of water that I left for myself next to the bed and I woke up the next morning with the worst hangover I have experienced to date.

But by 4pm on Saturday we were rolling again, working on the third set of costumes, which was the “Arte Andante,” or “Walking Art.” Katya (Russian girl) and one of the Spaniards had painted 6 well-known paintings on cardboard frames that we decked out with frames. These included the Mona Lisa and the Scream one, as well as some others that are more well-known here in Europe. The guys were the painters and six of us girls had holes cut in the paintings where we put our faces. The result was our faces in the masterpieces of the world!

It was a really cool idea and kind of fun at first, but not having eaten much and being as tired as we were, it got old fast. And the guys, who had the ability to move around all they wanted, throw confetti, etc, without cardboard stuck to their faces, kept doing the same things. They would come to use, pretend to paint the masterpiece, all the while whistling loudly in our faces with the whistles they carried in their mouths. It got really old, yet lasted 2 or 3 hours. By the time it was done, I was ready to come home.







I came back to my flat and intended to just take a nap, but ended up not waking up until 4am. I was supposed to meet the girls at their flat at 1am to go out again. So I missed the second night, but I wasn’t too terribly upset. I didn’t have a plan for a costume that night and I was tired and don’t like to drink two days in a row, so it wasn’t terribly awful that I missed it.

I relaxed the next day and then on Monday we had dinner at the girls’ flat (without Milena, who was in a neighboring town visiting our English friend) and it was delicious. Though I must say, I think that most cultures must not eat hot meals as much as us Americans do. Or maybe they just switch the hot meals. Like, we eat sandwiches in the afternoon and hot meals at night, where it’s opposite in most other places. I don’t think I like it. I like having a hot meal before going to bed. Anyway, so all this Indian food was cold. Good, but cold and not totally satisfying.

The next weekend was Milena’s birthday and we had a party. Katya and Bharathi and I made a cake that turned out to be pretty delightful—something like tiramisu. I was supposed to make spaghetti and did, but it was not wanted. So anyway, Milena made a dish, Bharathi made three dishes, and Katya made a dish, again all cold. We got all dressed up—I wore a new dress that turned out to be a total success!—and sat down to eat.

The Mexicans were supposed to come at 10pm but showed up something like an hour or two late and already drinking. They brought Tequila (Mexicans!) for us to share and another bottle of something called Arrujo, or something like that. Memo, one of the Mexicans, had to be put to sleep after only a little bit because he had had just a bit too much to drink. The birthday girl ended up being the one with him in the bathroom as he threw up. Such a good friend. We danced inside the house for quite a few hours and then headed to the dance club around 3am (no one gets there until that time). We danced at least four hours, putting me home again somewhere around 7am. Good night, great dress, good company.



The next weekend was a fiesta in a pueblo near us called Benquerencia, so we packed some sleeping bags and took off with the Mexicans and the Spaniard to hike to the town and sleep in a youth center. It was great fun, although a little sparse of people, which made dancing awkward. The next day we went to see some cave paintings on a nearby rock wall and the ruins of the castle that stand above the city. Then there was the hike back, which was lovely. I got sunburnt!



Once we got back to Castuera, we sat in the street for a little bit. Two of my boys from school were riding those two-wheeled skate-swivel-board thingys and Orlando, one of the Mexicans, attempted to learn how to use it. He kept saying, “this is the last try, I promise,” “okay, just a couple more tries and then I’ll give it back.” I love walking with my foreign friends when one of my kids recognizes me because the kids always say hello and I feel loved to be singled out as known amongst the group. It’s about the cutest thing ever.

I’m starting to appreciate Castuera more and more and am finding myself even finding things that I will miss, such as the just-mentioned hellos that I receive on my walks home from the kids that I teach. They love to yell my name from down the street just so I’ll yell a salutation back, but little do they know how much I love it to because it makes me feel like I belong a little more. And I’ll miss my foreign friends.

Katya leaves this week and it’s going to be very sad because it will just leave Milena and Bharathi. And of course, I love both of them, but Bharathi can get really annoying to be with for very long. And Milena is my favorite amongst the girls, but I don’t want to get bored of her either. That would be a bummer.

Luckily the Mexicans leave only a few days before I do, so I won’t have to feel too left-behind there, and then Milena and Bharathi will leave after me. It’ll be sad to leave them, but it’s much better than being left by them. :)

And I’ll miss this apartment a little. I’ll miss having total control of it, anyway. I love living by myself and while I’m excited to live with my parents again, I’m also not looking forward to relinquishing the vast personal space I have come to appreciate so greatly. Not that my parents don’t respect my personal space, but you know. There’s something to be said for having the freedom to leave a dirty dish in the sink as long as you want without feeling bad.

I think I’ve grown up a lot. I think I might have changed a little in the past couple of months.

Okay, time for me to go listen to haunting music. :) Love to all. Leave me a comment, tell me something about your life. If, of course, anyone actually reads this. <3 br="">

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

The Coming of March

I’ve been a little lazy lately. I crave internet, and my computer without internet is a little hard to get used to. So here I am, typing because I know it’s good to write it out. So bear with me through my laziness and disjointedness.

Okay, so last time I wrote, I finished with David leaving. This month really hasn’t been too exciting. I don’t say that in a bad way. I actually have really appreciated this month and staying in. I’m sure I’ll get sick of it as it gets warmer and brighter outside, but for now I’m really loving it. Lots of reading and lots of lounging.

I finished Ayn Rand. Amazing. I would recommend the book to anyone. It’ll make you feel S-M-A-R-T. In the words of one of my professors of English from Idaho, “Ayn Rand is the Anti-Christ” and her philosophy is about as opposite as you can get from most feeling people. :) But still a pleasure to read for what it opened my mind to. On to Fountainhead sometime soon!

And I finished HP3. Already into HP4, which is a feat. :) It’s longer. I’m still nervous for the next three, which are longer still, but I’m tackling this one quite nicely.

Oh! And since writing last, us girls (the foreign girls) have found some new foreign boys! Three Mexicans moved to Castuera either in January or February to do projects in architecture and design and we discovered them sometime early this month. They have the most adorable personalities and are a lot of fun to hang out with.

I’ve noticed lately that my favorite songs are always the most haunting. Take an already haunting band like Horse Feathers, Mumford & Sons or Frightened Rabbit, find their most haunting song, and it’s most likely my favorite of their songs. Dramatic? Maybe. But I like to think that I appreciate the humanity in them, which is best felt when the music and lyrics are stressed.

No tengo más para contaros. I’m appreciating Spain. I feel that next month will bring me even more appreciation. I played a "March Fool's Day" joke today (everyone expects April 1st so I thought I'd change it up), so we'll see what that brings.